Most of us have heard of the concept of “whatever you focus on grows.” If you are familiar with the law of attraction you’ve probably also heard, “that which is like unto itself is drawn” or more simply, “like attracts like.” But when you stop and really think about those statements, what do they really mean when it comes to us and our lives?
The human brain has between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day which equates to 35 to 48 thoughts per minute. Every single thought we think has energy attached to it and everything in this universe is made up of energy, including our bodies and all the so-called solid physical things that we see around us.
We can tell what kind of energy is attached to a thought by checking in with ourselves and asking ourselves, “how does this thought I’m thinking feel?” “Is it a good feeling thought or a bad feeling thought?” Our emotions are our guidance, our indicators that tell us what we are in the process of attracting with our thoughts.
Good feeling emotions are attracting to good feeling things; a good feeling body, good feeling relationships, good feeling circumstances and a good feeling life. Conversely, bad feeling thoughts are attracting to you more people and circumstances that are an energetic match to those bad feelings. This is how our thoughts create our reality.
So can you see how our thoughts really matter! We’ve all heard it’s important to be positive and think positively but that’s easier said than done. If any of you have ever tried to monitor your thoughts you’ve quickly found out how impossible that is to do. It can sometimes seem like our thoughts have a mind of their own and they are thinking us. Just try to stop thinking about something you don’t want to think about and you’ll see exactly what I mean. The harder you try to stop thinking about something you don’t want to think about, the more you think about it!
This is because we all have habitual patterns of thoughts that have a lot of energetic momentum around them, which makes it almost impossible to just stop thinking them. So what are we to do? We can try to diffuse our unwanted pattern of thoughts by checking in with ourselves often and asking ourselves, “how am I feeling right now” and then asking, “what was I just thinking about.” If it was something that is negative and you don’t want more of it, say, “I don’t want that!” “What do I want?” And then, “when I have it how will I feel?”
Here’s an example for you. I’m sure all of you parents of young adults can relate to this! You’re worried because your teenager is out at night with the car and all of a sudden you find yourself imagining a scenario where they’ve had a fatal car crash. You are going further and further down that suck hole of imagined tragedy, when all of a sudden you realize what you are doing. Try saying out loud, “Stop! I don’t want that!” “What do I want?” For example, you might say, “I want them to be safe.” “I want them to come back home on time.” “I want them to be having fun with their friends, I want them to explore life and spread their wings”, etc. Then ask yourself, “when they are back home safe how will I feel?” You might feel: “relieved, secure, at peace, happy” (you would fill in whatever is true for you). The important thing is to get to the feelings and really reach for and focus on how you want to feel, because that is what is what will sooth you and change your energy around this subject and what you are ultimately attracting.
One way to switch negative thoughts is to get general by going into feelings. For example: This thought feels____________ and if this were resolved I’d feel____________. The thing you’ve got to be careful of is you can’t make too big of an emotional jump all at once.
You can’t immediately switch from fear to joy, it’s just to big of a gap to bridge. You have to feel your way up the emotional scale a little bit at a time. Remember what you are always reaching for is a feeling of relief. Ask yourself what feels better, this thought or this thought and keep going with it until you find some positive feeling thoughts that feel true to you. This takes practice and for most of us it will not feel normal or natural but if you keep doing it, it will get easier and easier!
Below is the emotion scale and it will give you a guide post to show you where your normal/practiced “emotional set-point” is and what emotions you may want to start to reach for.
The Emotional Scale
- Positive Expectation/Belief
Look for our next post on how to tap up the emotional scale.