Tapping up the Emotional Scale

Joy girlI love tapping! Gary Craig, EFT’s (Emotional Freedoms Techniques) Founder use to say, “try it on everything” and believe me I have! From sprained ankles, to releasing little and big traumas, to self-limiting beliefs, to tapping on sick Guinea Pigs and everything else in between! Tapping is by far my favorite tool for helping myself and my clients process emotions, release traumas, remove blocks and change limiting beliefs. I will go as far as to say, that by tapping for myself over the last 12 years, I have totally changed the way I see myself and my world!

I have a lot of experience, training and certifications in what I am going to call “regular or classic” EFT tapping. I have seen the power of the process thousands of times in the last eleven years. What I am going to present to you today is another type of tapping that does not take the place of “classic” EFT tapping but is an add on to it. It’s meant to be used after you’ve done your regular tapping to release whatever the “issue” is that you are working on – or as a daily practice to help you focus on positive emotions and lining up your energy towards what you want.

Tap Into Joy is not something you want to do if you are in a really bad place and stuck in strong negative emotions, such as fear, grief, depression, hopelessness or rage. If you are feeling really bad, use classic EFT to release and process your emotions before you try this new process.

With tap Into Joy, unlike “classic” EFT we are very general/vague about the “issue.” The point is to focus on how we want to feel and gradually move up the emotional scale while we tap. We are using the power of the law of attraction and the concept of “whatever you focus on grows” to help us to reach for and feel better and better feeling emotions. It takes 17 seconds of holding a thought or feeling without contradiction, to start activating the power of the law of attraction. Once you cross the 68 second mark of focusing and feeling about something, you start to switch your vibration/energy around a subject.

Tapping helps you to focus, move energy, and start creating new neural pathways that make it easier and more natural for you to feel more positive emotions and states of being.  Here’s a little process that will give you a taste of how this works.

Sit comfortably in a quiet place, close your eyes and take 3 deep centering breaths, in through your nose and out through your mouth.

Check in with yourself and on a scale of 1 to 10 rate how you are feeling (10 means your feeling as good as you possibly can and 1 means the worst you can feel, zero means your dead!) ___________________

Ask yourself, how do I know that I’m that number? ____________________________

Start tapping on the Karate chop point:
(download the tapping points)

  • “Even though the truth is, I’m not feeling as good as I could be feeling I want to love and accept myself anyway.”
  • “Even though the truth is, I’m not feeling as good as I could be feeling – this just where I’m at right now.”
  • “Even though the truth is, I’m not feeling as good as I could be feeling – I’d like to feeling better.”

Tap through the points saying the following:

  • Even though I’m not feeling as good as I could be feeling,
  • this is just where I’m am right now
  • Even though I’m not feeling as good as I could be feeling
  • I want to love and accept myself anyway
  • Even though I’m not feeling as good as I could be feeling,
  • I’d like to start feeling better now
  • I really want to feel better
  • I really want to feel good
  • I’d like to feel better
  • I’d like to feel good and all the means to me.
  • I’d like to feel Calm,
  • centered,
  • relaxed,
  • That’s what I want.
  • calm
  • centered
  • relaxed
  • and all that means to me
  • I’d like to feel calm
  • I’d like to feel centered
  • I’d like to feel relaxed
  • Calm,
  • centered,
  • relaxed
  • and all that means to me.
  • That’s what I want.

Check in with yourself and notice if anything has changed? Do you feel any better? Rate yourself on the scale of 1 to 10 again. _________________

Starting on the karate chop say 3 times:

“Even though I’m feeling better than I was, I’d like to feel even better”

Tapping through the points:

  • Even though I’m feeling better than I was,
  • I’d like to feel even better
  • Even though I’m feeling better than I was,
  • I’d like to feel even better”
  • Even though I’m feeling better than I was,
  • I’d like to feel even better”
  • And all that means to me.
  • I’d like to feel awake
  • I’d like to feel alert
  • I’d like to feel energized
  • awake
  • alert
  • energized
  • Yes! that’s how I want to feel!

You can stop here or you can keep going up and up the emotional scale. If you want to keep going with it, start asking yourself as you tap.

  • I want to feel?___________(example – happy)
  • I want to feel__(happy)___and all that means to me.
  • Yes_(happy)_____that’s how I want to feel.

Keep going with your tapping until you feel complete!
(Note: insert whatever words occur and feel good to you.)

If you get momentum going with this you can tap yourself right up to joy and bliss! Try it! I think you’ll like it!

You can listen to call #1 of our Tap Into Joy 30 Day Challenge to hear how this is done.

What You Think About Really Matters!

Reality built on thoughtMost of us have heard of the concept of “whatever you focus on grows.”  If you are familiar with the law of attraction you’ve probably also heard, “that which is like unto itself is drawn” or more simply, “like attracts like.”  But when you stop and really think about those statements, what do they really mean when it comes to us and our lives?

The human brain has between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day which equates to 35 to 48 thoughts per minute. Every single thought we think has energy attached to it and everything in this universe is made up of energy, including our bodies and all the so-called solid physical things that we see around us.

We can tell what kind of energy is attached to a thought by checking in with ourselves and asking ourselves, “how does this thought I’m thinking feel?” “Is it a good feeling thought or a bad feeling thought?” Our emotions are our guidance, our indicators that tell us what we are in the process of attracting with our thoughts.

Good feeling emotions are attracting to good feeling things; a good feeling body, good feeling relationships, good feeling circumstances and a good feeling life. Conversely, bad feeling thoughts are attracting to you more people and circumstances that are an energetic match to those bad feelings. This is how our thoughts create our reality.

So can you see how our thoughts really matter! We’ve all heard it’s important to be positive and think positively but that’s easier said than done. If any of you have ever tried to monitor your thoughts you’ve quickly found out how impossible that is to do. It can sometimes seem like our thoughts have a mind of their own and they are thinking us. Just try to stop thinking about something you don’t want to think about and you’ll see exactly what I mean. The harder you try to stop thinking about something you don’t want to think about, the more you think about it!

This is because we all have habitual patterns of thoughts that have a lot of energetic momentum around them, which makes it almost impossible to just stop thinking them. So what are we to do? We can try to diffuse our unwanted pattern of thoughts by checking in with ourselves often and asking ourselves, “how am I feeling right now” and then asking, “what was I just thinking about.” If it was something that is negative and you don’t want more of it, say, “I don’t want that!” “What do I want?” And then, “when I have it how will I feel?”

Here’s an example for you. I’m sure all of you parents of young adults can relate to this! You’re worried because your teenager is out at night with the car and all of a sudden you find yourself imagining a scenario where they’ve had a fatal car crash. You are going further and further down that suck hole of imagined tragedy, when all of a sudden you realize what you are doing. Try saying out loud, “Stop! I don’t want that!” “What do I want?” For example, you might say, “I want them to be safe.” “I want them to come back home on time.” “I want them to be having fun with their friends, I want them to explore life and spread their wings”, etc. Then ask yourself, “when they are back home safe how will I feel?”  You might feel: “relieved, secure, at peace, happy” (you would fill in whatever is true for you). The important thing is to get to the feelings and really reach for and focus on how you want to feel, because that is what is what will sooth you and change your energy around this subject and what you are ultimately attracting.

One way to switch negative thoughts is to get general by going into feelings. For example: This thought feels____________ and if this were resolved I’d feel____________. The thing you’ve got to be careful of is you can’t make too big of an emotional jump all at once.

You can’t immediately switch from fear to joy, it’s just to big of a gap to bridge. You have to feel your way up the emotional scale a little bit at a time. Remember what you are always reaching for is a feeling of relief. Ask yourself what feels better, this thought or this thought and keep going with it until you find some positive feeling thoughts that feel true to you. This takes practice and for most of us it will not feel normal or natural but if you keep doing it, it will get easier and easier!

Below is the emotion scale and it will give you a guide post to show you where your normal/practiced “emotional set-point” is and what emotions you may want to start to reach for.

The Emotional Scale

  1. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness
  2. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
  3. Jealousy
  4. Hatred/Rage
  5. Revenge
  6. Anger
  7. Discouragement
  8. Blame
  9. Worry
  10. Doubt
  11. Disappointment
  12. Overwhelment
  13. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
  14. Pessimism
  15. Boredom
  16. Contentment
  17. Hopefulness
  18. Optimism
  19. Positive Expectation/Belief
  20. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
  21. Passion
  22. Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation

Look for our next post on how to tap up the emotional scale.

Take The 30 Day Joy Challenge!

Join us Monday, February 16, 2015
at 7:00pm Eastern for
The Tap Into – Joy 30 Day Challenge!

Come play with us for the next 30 days as we make it our intention to “seek joy first” and try out together a new tapping technique that I’ve been working on, that’s designed to help you focus on and increase the better feeling emotions and higher energy vibrations.

What do I mean by “seek joy first,” I mean we are going to place our focus on the things that we like, that are working and are pleasing to us and focus and tap into better and better feeling places. We’re deliberately going to look around our environment at the people, places and things and zero in on the all positive aspects of our lives.

Since whatever you focus on grows, we’re going to deliberately grow our joy by looking for things to appreciate in everything and everyone, including ourselves. For the next 30 days we are going to do our absolute best to put on some “rose colored glasses” and pretend that we are Polly Ana, pie in the sky optimists!

Oh right, you might be saying, that would be easy if I could just take off for a month to some beautiful and secluded place where I didn’t have to deal with all these negative people and daily problems that I have going on in my life. But most of us don’t have that luxury available to us and even if we did, it wouldn’t help teach us how to feel more joy in the midst of the lives that we are living. So, we are going to start with wherever we are in the moment, and practice how we can experience more joy right now, with whatever life we happen to be living!

It takes about 30 days of doing something consistently to “create a habit.”  We all have habits of thought that create a kind of “set-point” within us, of a range of emotions and moods that are “normal” for us. We’re going to work on creating a “better feeling normal” because the more you activate the good feeling emotions and the more time you spend in them, the more habitual and normal they become for you.

If any of this resonates with you and you’d like to give it a try, I suggest you approach it in a light and playful way. Look at the next 30 days as an interesting adventure and experiment!

For the full detailed instructions of how to take The 30 Day Joy Challenge, enter your name and email address into the box on the right and you’ll gain immediate access to the detailed instructions as well as the call in number for Monday, 2/16/15 – 7pm Eastern.

Join the Joy Movement!

The Joy is in the Journey!

Welcome fellow Joy Seekers! It is our intention to attract those who would like
to experience more joy in their lives and pass it on the others.

  • We believe that the world could use some more Joy.
  • We believe in the power of Joy to change our lives and so change the world.
  • We believe that we change the world by changing ourselves.
  • We believe that there are no happy endings to unhappy journeys.
  • We believe that the Joy of life is in the Journey.
  • We believe that we create our reality by what we focus on.
  • We believe that whatever we focus on grows.
  • We believe that the measure of our personal success is the amount of Joy we feel.
  • We believe that if we seek Joy first than all else follows.
  • We believe that we have the power to focus our minds in a more positive way each day and by so doing, create more joyful lives and a more joyful world!

If these beliefs resonate with you, we invite you to join
“The Joy Movement” and take the 30 Day Joy Challenge!